TWO CRAZY CALLS

I wasn't going to post about this, but thought, ehhh, what the heck. Last Thursday I got home from the grocery store and Davis was at the back door to "greet" me. He sat on the steps and said, "The assistant principal called, what's up with Logan?" My heart sunk and I thought, "uh oh"!
So, too back track a week...I picked Tanner up from school a week ago and while we were in the car he "casually" said, "Mom, can I go to a different school?" I was confused and tried to see what info I could get out of him. Basically there is this boy in Tanner's 2nd grade class named Logan. He is being really mean to Tanner, calling him "stupid" "idiot" "jerk"...you know 7 year old boy talk. He also has been telling Tanner to "shut up" that no one wants to hear from him. So, I told him that changing schools wouldn't help, that there were always going to be "Logan's" in his life and he needed to figure out how to deal with it. We discussed ignoring him (yes I know all the Men out there are thinking....he should've talked to his Dad. LOL) telling the teacher when he's being unkind.
Okay, that's all I could think of at the time. So, I kept it in the back of my head and was trying to discuss what I should do, if anything. Maybe it's a one time deal?!?! So, Wednesday I just happened to talk to a friend in my ward who's child is in the same class and has had Logan in his class before...you know, putting the "feelers out." At the end of the conversation we'd decided it would be best to at least email the teacher about it. Well, I didn't get around to it that night. OH, I also had been asking Tanner everyday after school how things were going with Logan and he'd just shrug and say, "fine!" So what to do.
Well, this brings us back to Davis sitting on the steps and he then says, "Well the assistant principal called telling me that Tanner punched Logan in the face." AH MAN!!!!!!! Since it was almost time for school to be out, I jumped back in the car (after unloading the groceries of course) and went to have a talk with the teacher...okay, first I called my friend that I'd talked to the day before and she gave me a "pep" talk and some good "stay calm" advice. LOL
So, I met Tanner at the school and said, "Hey Bud, can I go talk to your teacher?" He shrugged and said, "Because I hit Logan?" "Well, yes and a few other things." So he played on the playground and the teacher and I had a great talk and laugh about the whole thing. Basically she said that Tanner is a joy in class, that he gets along with everyone, so when this happened she was "so confused!" She didn't know what to think and what had happened (I guess it happened while they were lining up for lunch or after lunch or something, so the teacher was in the classroom.) I then started to tell her what Tanner had told me about having problems with Logan. This was all new to her. Tanner had never mentioned it and she hadn't seen any of it going on. She did say that Loagn was a bit difficult and had problems being nice, so she wasn't surprised. Well, the end came down to us talking to Tanner about not hitting NO MATTTER WHAT and that he needed to talk to his teacher when kids were being unkind. I asked him if he felt comfortable talking to the teacher about it and he said "no" so we addressed that (and that it's not tattling if someone is getting physically hurt or "feelings" hurt.) The teacher talked to him about wanting him to always feel safe in her class, etc. Then I guess the next morning they had a BIG TALK about bullying and being nice.

So I got one of the FIRST calls no Mother ever wants to recieve, "Your child hit someone at school."UGH GROAN, then I had to remind myself that most likely it wouldn't be the last call....especially since I have 2 more boys that haven't started school yet.

Then this morning I got another FIRST call no Mother ever wants to hear. I was sitting at work and my cell phone rang. (as most of you know my cellphone is my home phone right now) So the caller says, "Mrs. Strong, this is the school calling (oh no! not again) We are just checking up on Tanner, he didn't show up to school today." Heart sinks, I start searching my brain to see if Davis mentioned anything this morning when we talked, about Tanner not going to school. I find my voice and say, "Well, my husband was supposed to get him to school today, let me call and see what's going on. What's the number to call to get you?" I wrote it down and in near tears called Davis, "Did you drop Tanner off at school today?" Davis, "Yeah, why?" Heart sinks further...."They just called and told me he never showed up." Davis in silence for a second, "What's the number to the school?" I gave it to him and we hung up. Not more than 3 minutes passes and Davis calls back. "So, I called the school....." pause "they paged his teacher while I was on the phone and he's sitting in class where he should be." Big sigh of relief...then the anger erupts, "Why couldn't they have figured that out BEFORE they called ME!?!?!?!?! Are they STUPID over there?" Deep breaths Holly, Deep breaths!!! GRRRR!!! So that's my second crazy call from the school.

Big laugh knowing Tanner's only in 2nd grade and he has 3 more siblings to follow. I'm sure there will be plenty more "strange" calls from the school. Let's just hope they are all minor. Now I'm justing waiting for the call when he's in Jr. High and caught smoking pot behind the bleachers....LOL I HOPE not...but who knows. Keeping fingers crossed that we can keep these incidents MINOR!!!!